Reblog: Abuse Is A Painful Fact, Not 50 Shades of Fiction


I just had the misfortune of seeing the trailer for ’50 Shades’. I have seen copies of this book on my friends’ and family’s bookcases. After watching the trailer I was incensed. It took about 20 seconds for me to spot the young, child-like, vulnerable female character and the manipulative, controlling, older male character (who saw his chance and grabbed it). By the end of the two minute trailer I could not believe that not only does a bestseller glamourise domestic abuse, but now Hollywood thinks it makes a good movie, too. No doubt it will do well at the box office. I cannot understand for the life of me why any woman would be attracted to a man like that… but then, I can’t understand for the life of me why I was married to a manipulative, controlling, abusive man for a decade, either. It makes me sick to think that women and men watch this stuff and think it’s ok.


Abuse is never ok.

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So today in the UK, I (@EmmaTofi on Twitter) managed to have a Lead Letter printed in The Daily Mail newspaper, discussing the abuse in 50 Shades of Grey and EL James’ reaction to abuse survivors who have dared to raise the subject. The Daily Mail is read by 4.3million people in the UK alone, so fingers crossed, we’re taking our awareness campaign to some pretty high numbers! For those who haven’t seen it, this is a full transcript of the letter (bear in mind, they edited it to a degree):

“I’m upset by the incredible success of EL James’ book Fifty Shades of Grey. A growing number of women, including me, see this book as romanticising abuse. This is not because of the BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism) element of the story, but because Christian Grey stalks, manipulates and controls Ana throughout the trilogy. In the third…

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