Abuse has many faces. For many years I stayed with the highly abusive man who was my first husband because of teachings like this (see video below). My children learned that it was ok to be nasty to mummy. They were being brought up in a miserable, soul-destroying home. It is not the abuse towards me that breaks my heart to recall, it is the fact that they were there too. I have no words to describe the abject horror of the seemingly innocuous words from John Piper on this issue. This teaching is not just wrong, it is wicked.
The Twitter handle #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou, started by the BBC, has given victims of emotional, spiritual, financial and other forms of abuse a platform to share a glimpse into their experiences.
Often, the pain and trauma of non-physical abuse is dismissed or ignored. Because the bruising to a victim’s psyche and soul are not visible, they do not receive the help and healing needed or the support to leave. Slowly, they are beaten down to a place of low self-esteem and self-doubt and they begin to believe the lies of their abuser. They experience symptoms of PTSD or anxiety or other conditions from their distress and this gives their abuser the added ammunition to claim they are the crazy one, they are the cause of the abuse.
Sadly, these types of abuse are very common in…
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